3. They’re Way Less Affectionate
Every relationship goes through rough patches, and everyone has a bad day (or two) where they simply need some time alone. But if the level of intimacy and emotional connection in your relationship has dropped off steeply, take note.
“If you only interact with a partner like a roommate, then it’s a red flag,” Jonathan Bennett, relationship and dating expert at Double Trust Dating, tells Bustle. “This could be little or no sex and a lack of general intimacy. If you look closely at your relationship and it screams roommate more than lover, there’s a problem.”
4. They’re Suddenly Sleeping In Another Room
Couples come up with all sorts of sleeping arrangements that aren’t necessarily “typical,” especially if they live together, and that’s fine. One person may sleep in a guest room if they’re a loud snorer, for example. Or a couple may sleep separatelyfor comfort reasons, or due to opposite sleeping schedules.
But if a couple once happily slept next to each other, and are now spending more time apart, there could be a bigger reason. “One of the many signs that I see in failing relationships is when a partner decides to sleep in a separate room from their partner when they were originally sleeping in the same bed,” relationship expert Jennifer Seiter tells Bustle. “If you notice your partner exhibiting this sign you should take a close look at the relationship and figure out what’s changed.”
5. They Seem To Be Avoiding You
When it comes to failing relationships, “avoidance is a red flag,” Vazquez says. If your partner is leaving for work earlier in the morning, coming home later at night, or disappearing on the weekends, there may be a reason.
It could be their way of backing out of the relationship, she says, without having to have a difficult conversation about their unhappiness.
A drastic schedule change could also be “a sign that they may be wanting to be connected to others and other activities more than you,” Dr. Klapow says. Whatever the case may be, it’ll be important to talk about it.