While many people pull it together and put on a good show in public, if your partner lets you down consistently behind closed doors, it may be a sign they’re falling out of love. What you do in the privacy of your own home can say a lot about the health of your relationship. So if your partner seems extra distant, or has become less affectionate, take note. cool stuff, cool stuff, cool stuff
Set aside time to talk about things with your partner if it feels like something’s up. “We cannot be 100 percent sure what is in another’s heart, [so] it is always best to ask them what’s going on,” Christina Vazquez, a psychotherapist and author, tells Bustle. “If you still feel the ‘off vibe,’ set your standards and communicate them clearly, firmly, yet lovingly. You deserve to be loved as you want to be. If they can’t or won’t deliver, then you may have your answer.”
That said, try not to jump to conclusions or assume your partner is falling out of lovejust because they’re a little quiet — as they may just have something on their mind. “Remember that your partner’s personal issues, your own issues, and the relationship itself all drive the emotional setting,” Joshua Klapow, PhD, clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, tells Bustle. “Express your concern, ask what is going on, and express your desire to make things better. You may need therapy, they may need therapy, you may need couples therapy. You won’t know until you talk.” Here are a few things experts say may be a sign of a problem, and one you’ll need to talk about ASAP. cool stuff, cool stuff, cool stuff
1. They Seem Way More Annoyed Than Usual
There are a million and one reasons why your partner may seem more annoyed than usual. They might be having a tough time at work, they may be feeling anxious, or they may be worrying about money. As a result, they may seem cranky, and that’s OK. love, relationships, marriage, dating
If your partner seems annoyed with you, however, there may be something more going on. “Irritation is a sub-category of anger,” Vazquez says. “Suppressing our truth or not being true to yourself can cause inner turmoil [to spill] over to our treatment of our partner. Is there something your partner is not being honest about with either you or themselves?”
By asking this question, you can get to the bottom of their irritation. If it’s due to their job or their health, you can figure out ways to work through it together. But if it’s due to a discontentment in the relationship, it may be a good idea to seek therapy.
2. They Can’t Be Bothered To Argue
On the flip side, if your partner is checking out, they may begin to seem a little toosweet and carefree. “They’ll move from emotionally connected with you to emotionally neutral with you,” Dr. Klapow says. “They won’t get mad any more. They’ll be ‘polite’ and ‘cordial’ with you, to the point where it it almost feels like a professional relationship.” love, relationships, marriage, dating
People who are invested in each other tend to bicker and disagree, which is why it’s considered healthy for couples to argue occasionally. If your partner is falling out of love, they may lose this desire to “fight” productively.